What are we looking for? no ear to the daily 3000 words coming out of your mouth a day? feeling like midlife crisis? people suggest an all problems' solution, get married. one of my just got married friend said so. After marriage, you don't get bored, you don't need people for company. well, that, kind of looks right to me sometime. You'd realize this if you have couple friends and if you are a single. why do we reach out to people? because, we don't get bored, we get entertained, we can keep ourself occupied, we feel happy. We are not happy being alone. Why? We human beings are animal of herd. With the exceptional qualities of our mind, there comes this craving to keep our mind occupied. When no mind, not worries, but in our case, that is not so, we have mind, we have thoughts, we have preferences, being distinct and the most intelligence creatures on the face of earth. Hence comes our need to be with a company, a psychological need, and physiological need. It's a long weekend sunday, and right from my wake up, I am bored.. so this came to my mind...
My fantasy as a teenager: I used to think that I would meet a guy in a park, college or even next doors, fall in love, get married and live happily ever after. this someone who is intelligent, caring, confident, sophisticated, lively and knows how to listen to the music of the Rain. We can go for long walks, talk late into the night, doesn't mind getting bored with me, discovering the joys of togetherness. A person I can grow old with and still feel that our relationship is fresh and young. May be it sounds too much of a fairy tale now or I am really bored...
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Just that we are human beings, and we can't understand other living beings, we are claiming ourselves to be the most intelligent. Just that i don't feel that we have a right to say that we are more intelligent. Human beings have been creating imbalances in the nature and in the way nature has been doing, but just that we are doing something ( Let's leave the point whether it's bad or good), we claim ourselves to be intellegent beings.
Let me get back to the point. Longing for a company is not just for being entertained, it's also for sharing, it is for realising a lot of our traits, like we want to be with our children to nuture and share our parental feelings. We want to be with our brothers, to seek brotherhood, we are with teachers to learn and with students to make them understand few things. So being with someone is not about being entertained. Everyday, my wife takes cares about the plants for about an hour in the morning and about half an hour in the evening. She stares at them, cleans them, gives them water. She has a bonding with them. She share her feelings for taking care of them. She is delighted to see the blossoming flowers, the new growth on the plants. She shares herself with them, and make them a part of her life and a part of herself.
I feel, there is a need in ourselves, to make other living beings, a part of ourselves, where we can just be ourselves, and not have to pretend anything.
I don't feel the company that we seek is just a company of human beings, but about a lot of things. I feel we even seek company of nature, wind, rain, heat, cold, snow, just that it depends on what we are and what are the circumstances around us.
I feel that we seek company to express ourselves. If we can express ourselves, just to us or to everything that is around us, we might just stop seeking more company.
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